Children – Quote Catch

Thomas S. Monson: I am sure that family prayer motivated a letter written some years ago by a young Latter-day Saint girl attending a Colorado high school. The students had been asked to prepare a letter to be written to a great man of their choice. Many addressed their letters to well-known athletes, to a noted astronaut, to the president of the United States, and to other celebrities. This young lady, however, addressed her letter to her father, and in the letter she stated: “I have decided to write this letter to you, Dad, because you are the greatest man that I have ever known. The overwhelming desire of my heart is that I might so live that I might have the privilege of being beside you and Mother and other members of the family in the celestial kingdom.” That father never received a more cherished letter.
“…No other experiences of life draw us nearer to heaven than those that exist between happy parents and happy children.” (Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, Nov. 1994, 54)
Spencer W. Kimball, 1969 General Conference, “And who are to build these reservoirs? Is this not the reason that God gave to every child two parents? Who else but the forebears would clear the forests, plow the land, carve out the futures? Who else would set up the businesses, dig the canals, survey the territory? Who else would plant the orchards, start the vineyards, erect the homes? In his omniscience, our God gave to every child a father and mother to pioneer the way. And so it is those parents who sired them and bore them who are expected to lay foundations and to hold the hands through the tender years to build the barns and tanks and bins and reservoirs”
Spencer W. Kimball, 1969 General Conference, “Did not the Lord, speaking of parents, say, “And they shall also teach their children to pray, and to walk uprightly before the Lord”? ()
Spencer W. Kimball, 1969 General Conference, “Is it not the work of the parents to build so their children can inhabit houses they did not build, eat the fruit from trees they did not plant and grapes from vines they did not start? Parents should be soberly about their life’s work of building reservoirs and helping to fill them for the children who are yet too small to hoe, or dig, or plow.”
Spencer W. Kimball, 1969 General Conference, “(referring to Lehi)…Though two of the brothers ignored those teachings, using their own free agency, yet Nephi and others of his brothers were strongly fortified and all their lives could draw heavily on the reservoir built and filled by worthy parents.”
Spencer W. Kimball, 1969 General Conference, “(referring to Children being influenced outside the home during the day)…How can you be sure they will not leave you and the simple faith in God? The answer was unmistakable. “We mend the damaged reservoir every night,” they said. “We teach our children positive righteousness so that the false philosophies do not take hold, and should any have taken lodgment in the day, we dislodge them at night. Our children are growing up in faith and righteousness in spite of the overwhelming pressures from outside.” Generally, cracked dams can be mended and saved, and sandbags can hold back the flood’ and reiterated truth, renewed prayer, gospel teachings, a flood of love, and parental interest can save the child and keep him on the right path.”
President Thomas S. Monson, “To you parents, express your love to your children. Pray for them that they may be able to withstand the evils of the world. Pray that they may brow in faith and testimony. Pray that they may pursue lives of goodness and of service to others. Children, let your parents know you love them. Let them know how much you appreciate all they have done and continue to do for you.”
Boyd K. Packer, “Young people wonder “why?”…Why are we commanded to do some things, and why are we commanded not to do other things? A knowledge of the plan of happiness…can give young minds a “why”…You will not be with (your) children at the time of their temptations. At those dangerous moments, they must depend on their own resources. If they can locate themselves within the framework of the gospel plan, they will be immensely strengthened….The plan is worthy of repetition over and over again. Then the purpose of life, the reality of the Redeemer, and the reason for the commandments will stay with them….their gospel study, their life experiences, will add to an ever-growing witness of the Christ, of the Atonement, of the restoration of the gospel” address to religious educators, 10 Aug 1993
Elder Robert D. Hales, April 1999 General Conference, “Every family can be strengthened in one way or another if the Spirit of the Lord is brought into our homes and we teach by His example….Act with faith; don’t react with fear. When our teenagers begin testing family values, parents need to go to the Lord for guidance on the specific needs of each family member. This is the time for added love and support and to reinforce your teachings on how to make choices. It is frightening to allow our children to learn from the mistakes they may make, but their willingness to choose the Lor’s way and family values is greater when the choice comes from within than when we attempt to force those values upon them. The Lord’s way of love and acceptance is better than Satan’s way of force and coercion, especially in rearing teenagers.”
President Gordon B. Hinckley, General Conference Oct 1995, “Your parents, love your children. Cherish them. They are so precious. They are so very, very important. They are the future. You need more than your own wisdom in rearing them. You need the help of the Lord. Pray for that help and follow the inspiration which you receive.”
Children Are Dogs – Teenagers Are Cats (Author Unknown)I just realized that while children are dogs … loyal and affectionate … teenagers are CATS. You feed it, train it, boss it around. It puts its head on your knee and gazes at you as if you were a Rembrandt painting. It bounds indoors with enthusiasm when you call it. Then around age 13, your adoring little puppy turns into a big old cat… When you tell it to come inside, it looks amazing, as if wondering who died and made you emperor. Instead of dogging your footsteps, it disappears. You won’t see it again until it gets hungry… then it pauses on its sprint through the kitchen long enough to turn its nose up at whatever you’re serving. When you reach out to ruffle its head, in that old affectionate gesture, it twists away from you, then gives you a blank stare, as if trying to remember where it has seen you before. You, not realizing that the dog is now a cat, think something must be desperately wrong with it. It seems so antisocial, so distant, sort of depressed. It won’t go on family outings. Since you’re the one who raised it, taught it to fetch and stay and sit on command, you assume that you did something wrong. Flooded with guilt and fear, you redouble your efforts to make your pet behave. Only now you’re dealing with a cat, so everything that worked before now produces the opposite of the desired result. Call it, and it runs away. Tell it to sit, and it jumps on the counter. The more you go toward it, wringing your hands, the more it moves away. Instead of continuing to act like a dog owner, you can learn to behave like a cat owner. Put a dish of food near the door, and let it come to you. But remember that a cat needs your help and your affection too. Sit still, and it will come, seeking that warm, comforting lap it has not entirely forgotten. Be there to open the door for it. One day your grown-up child will walk into the kitchen, give you a big kiss and say, “You’ve been on your feet all day. Let me get those dishes for you.” Then you’ll realize your cat is a dog again.
“Some six months before his crucifixion, Jesus was asked by his disciples: “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” In answer, He “called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them, and said, verily I say unto you, except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. Whosoever, therefore, shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven” (; compare ). Here we find that becoming as a little child is related to being converted. Becoming as a little child represents a turnaround, an alteration of behavior and attitude, a mater of “crossing yourself”, of going at cross purposes to the natural man and moving toward God and godliness. The Lord does not call upon us to be childish but rather to be childlike.” (Men of Influence, 50-51)
“…a little child is Dependent, Submissive, Trusting, Humble, Patient and Persistent, Delighted by simple pleasures, Alive to life about them, Not caught up with life’s stresses and strains, Quick to forgive and forget, Pure” (Men of Influence, 51-53)
“…the Son of God came into the world to redeem it from the fall. But except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. This eternal truth settles the question of all men’s religion. A man may be saved, after judgment, in the terrestrial kingdom, or in the telestial kingdom, but he can never see the celestial kingdom of God…unless he becomes as a little child, and is taught by the Spirit of God” (Joseph Smith, Teachings, 12)
In a letter to his wife from Paris, John Adams observed: “I must study politics and war, that my sons may have the liberty to study mathematics and philosophy, geography, natural history, and naval architecture, navigation, commerce, and agriculture, in order to give their children a right to study painting, poetry, music, architecture, statuary, tapestry and porcelain.” Seven Miracles That Saved America, Page 126
“Imagine that you have an eight-year-old child who comes in while you’re working on something and says, “Will you play catch with me?” You reply, “I don’t have time to do that right now.” Imagine, though, that the child comes in and says, “I just stepped on a nail and my foot is bleeding. Can you help me?” You probably wouldn’t say, “I don’t have time to do that right now.” In actuality, you have exactly the same amount of time as when you used the excuse of lack of time to avoid playing catch. The truth of the matter is that you didn’t want to play catch and you do want to stop the bleeding. By using time as the culprit, you place yourself in the victim position once again. You did it to be polite. (By the way, I’m not advocating that you be blunt with anyone, especially eight-year-old children. I’m advocating that you stop using time or lack of time as an excuse. It’s just as polite to say to your child, “I want to finish what I’m working on before I play catch,” rather than claiming to be the victim of time.)” The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level (Gay Hendricks)- Highlight on Page 180
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You’re a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson
“We believe that when parents who build wealth pass only their material assets to their children, and not the values by which they have lived, there is little chance the family, or its wealth, will survive for long.” Beating the Midas Curse, by Perry L. Cochell and Rodney C. Zeeb, Page 7
“We have worked with thousands of families over the past two decades. Through that experience, from our research of the financial and legal literature, and from interviews and interactions with professional colleagues in several disciplines, we have come to this conclusion: Ninety percent of all traditional inheritance plans will fail. In part, this conclusion is based on numerous studies that show in families where new wealth has been created by the first generation, six out of ten of those families’ fortunes will be gone by the end of the second generation. By the end of the third generation, nine out of the ten families will be broke.” Beating the Midas Curse, by Perry L. Cochell and Rodney C. Zeeb, Page 7
“The same principle can be applied to children: ‘Don’t overfund children- you’ll ruin them. It will impair their character and destroy their motivation to succeed.’ When children study the plight of people in need, and they understand that they have the wherewithal to do something about it, it is a powerful experience. That is especially true of children who have never experienced scarcity in any respect. With knowledge about the needs of others, children can experience scarcity from the vantage point of the helping hand in the field. As one advisor put it, ‘Instead of merely sailing on a sea of riches, children can experience an ocean of needs.” Beating the Midas Curse, by Perry L. Cochell and Rodney C. Zeeb, Page 150
“We can be reasonably active, meeting-going Latter-day Saints, but if we do not live lives of gospel integrity and convey to our children powerful, heartfelt convictions regarding the truthfulness of the Restoration and the divine guidance of the Church from the First Vision to this very hour, then those children may, to our regret but not surprise, turn out not to be visibly active, meeting-going Latter-day Saints or sometimes anything close to it.” Broken Things to Mend (Jeffrey R. Holland) Kindle Loc. 165-68
“Moms and dads can do everything right and yet have children who stray. The moral agency still obtains. But even in such painful hours, it will be comforting for you to know that your children knew of your abiding faith in Christ, in His true Church, in the keys of the priesthood, and in those who hold them. It will be comforting then for you to know that if your children choose to leave the straight and narrow way, they leave it very conscious that their parents were firmly in it. Furthermore, they will be much more likely to return to that path when they come to themselves (see ) and recall the loving example and gentle teachings you offered them there.” Broken Things to Mend (Jeffrey R. Holland) Kindle Loc. 185-89
“Nephi-like, might we ask ourselves, what do our children know? From us?Personally? Do our children know that we love the scriptures? Do they see us reading them and marking them and clinging to them in daily life? Have our children ever unexpectedly opened a closed door and found us on our knees in prayer? Have they heard us not only pray with them but also pray for them out of nothing more than sheer parental love? Do our children know we believe in fasting as something more than an obligatory first-Sunday-of-the-month hardship? Do they know that we have fasted for them and for their future on days about which they knew nothing? Do they know we love being in the temple, not least because it provides a bond to them that neither death nor the legions of hell can break? Do they know we love and sustain local and general leaders, imperfect as they are, for their willingness to accept callings they did not seek in order to preserve a standard of righteousness they did not create? Do those children know that we love God with all our heart and that we long to see the face—and fall at the feet—of His Only Begotten Son? I pray that they know this.” Broken Things to Mend
“This relationship between Christ and His Father is one of the sweetest and most moving themes running through the Savior’s ministry. Jesus’ entire being, His complete purpose, and delight were centered in pleasing His Father and obeying His will. Of Him He seemed always to be thinking; to Him, He seemed always to be praying. Unlike us, He needed no crisis, no discouraging shift in events to direct His hopes heavenward. He was already instinctively, longingly looking that way.” Broken Things to Mend (Jeffrey R. Holland) Kindle Loc. 296-99
“I have heard very fearful and even dismal opinions coming from some in your age group regarding the questions that missionary had in mind. I have heard some of you say that you wonder whether there is any purpose in going on a mission or getting an education or planning for a career if the world we live in is going to be so uncertain. I have even heard sweethearts say, “We don’t know whether we should get married in such uncertain times.” Worst of all, I have heard reports of some newlyweds questioning whether they should bring children into a terror-filled world on the brink of latter-day cataclysms. May I tell you that, in a way, those kinds of attitudes worry me more than Al-Qaeda worries me? We must never, in any age or circumstance, let fear and the father of fear (Satan himself) divert us from our faith and faithful living. There have always been questions about the future. Every young person and every young couple in every era has had to walk by faith into what has always been some uncertainty—starting with Adam and Eve in those first tremulous steps out of the Garden of Eden. But that is all right. This is the plan. It will be okay. Just be faithful. God is in charge. He knows your name and He knows your need.” Broken Things to Mend (Jeffrey R. Holland) Kindle Loc. 778-87
“But both research and experience show that parental love and a happy home is the strongest defense our children have against anything the lords of darkness can throw at them.” Broken Things to Mend (Jeffrey R. Holland) Kindle Loc. 1302-3
Proverbs 22: 6…Train a child in the way he should go, and when told he won’t depart from it.
1 Nephi 5:21…We should preserve the commandments of the Lord unto our children by providing them with the scriptures
Moses 1: 4, 6, 7…We are children of God
Romans 2:12…If you sin without law, then you’ll perish without the law. If you sin with the law, you’ll perish with the law.
Alma 5:41…Those with good works hearken unto the voice of the good shepherd. Those with bad works are children of the devil and hearken unto him.
Alma 30:60…The Devil does not support his children at the last day but doth speedily drag them down to hell.
Alma 29: 5…Those that knoweth not good from evil is blameless
Mosiah 24: 22…Teach children to give thanks to God
Mosiah 24: 8…Children follow their parent’s evil counsel
Mosiah 20: 11…Fight for your lives, wives, and children.
Mosiah 18: 22…Preaching and being a Child of God go hand in hand
Mosiah 15: 24-25…Those who die in ignorance and the little children are in the 1st resurrection and have Eternal Life
Mosiah 10: 17…Children are greatly influenced by what their parents tell them
Mosiah 13: 20…Honor your father and mother – days prolonged
Mosiah 3: 16,18…The little children and Adam’s transgression are saved through Christ’s blood.
Mosiah 6: 2…Little Children don’t need to make covenants & take Christ’s name over them
Mosiah 10: 8-9…Christ came to earth to call sinners to repent, not the just. The curse of Adam is taken from little children through Christ.
Mosiah 3: 19…Characteristics of a child. A. Submissive B. Meek C. Humble D. Patient E. Full of love F. Willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon us.
Mosiah 5: 7…We become spiritual sons & daughters of Christ when we have a change of heart to do good.
Luke 9:46-48…Be as children (humble) and be the biggest
Mosiah 4:14…Don’t let children contend
D&C 29:46-47…Children can’t sin
Mark 10:13-16…Jesus blesses children
Ether 6:16-17…Teach children to walk humbly
Hebrews 12:6-7…Discipline your children
Moses 8:27…Walk righteously with your children
Deuteronomy 6:5-7…Teach children
Proverbs 22:6…Teach kids
D&C 68:25-26…Don’t teach kids gospel, sin over parent‘s head
Moroni 8:5-15…Little children don’t need baptism
Moroni 8:17…Love little children with all your heart (and be like them as Mormon)
Ezequiel 18:19-20…Children won’t have sin of father
1 Nephi 11:17…God loves his children (and parents should follow his example)
1 Nephi 17:55…Honor thy parents – days long in the land
1 Nephi 18:17…Children who cause grief – make parents suffer, even to death
2 Nephi 3:25…Children should listen to righteous older brothers and to words of an old parent
2 Nephi17:14-15…Christ as child ate butter and honey until he knew good from bad
Mosiah 1:18…Obey your parents
“When we are little, we learn how to feel about ourselves and about life by the reactions of the adults around us.” You Can Heal Your Life (Louise Hay) Page 17

“If we were to take a three-year-old child and put him in the middle of the room, and you and I were to start yelling at the child, telling him how stupid he was, how he could never do anything right, how he should do this, and shouldn’t do that, and look at the mess he made; and maybe hit him a few times, we would end up with a frightened little child who sits docilely in the corner, or who tears up the place. The child will go one of these two ways, but we will never know the potential of that child. If we take the same little child and tell him how much we love him, how much we care, that we love the way he looks and love how bright and clever he is, that we love the way he does things, and that it’s okay for him to make mistakes as he learns — and that we will always be there for him no matter what — then the potential that comes out of that child will blow your mind!” You Can Heal Your Life (Louise Hay) Page 28
“How much do you know about your parents’ childhoods, especially before the age of ten? If it’s still possible for you to find out, ask them. If you’re able to find out about your parents’ childhoods, you will more easily understand why they did what they did. Understanding will bring you compassion. If you don’t know and can’t find out, try to imagine what it must have been like for them. What kind of childhood would create an adult like that? You need this knowledge for your own freedom. You can’t free yourself until you free them. You can’t forgive yourself until you forgive them. If you demand perfection from them, you will demand perfection from yourself, and you will be miserable all your life.” You Can Heal Your Life (Louise Hay) Page 29
“If we were taught as a child that the world is a frightening place, then everything we hear that fits that belief we will accept as true for us. The same is true for “Don’t trust strangers,” “Don’t go out at night,” or “People cheat you.” On the other hand, if we were taught early in life that the world is a safe place, then we would hold other beliefs. We could easily accept that love is everywhere, and people are so friendly, and I always have whatever I need.” You Can Heal Your Life (Louise Hay) Page 35
“…No other experiences of life draw us nearer to heaven than those that exist between happy parents and happy children.” (Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign, Nov. 1994, 54)
“The Savior will come and will honor his people. Those who are spared and prepared will be temple-loving people. They will know Him… Let us prepare them (our children) with the faith to surmount every trial and every condition. We will do it in these holy, sacred temples. Come, come, oh come…to the temples of the Lord and abide in His presence.” (Vaughn J. Featherstone, General Conference, Apr. 1987)
The Story of William and his Children
The Story of the Butterfly
… And it came to pass that he did teach and minister unto the children of the multitude of whom hath been spoken, and he did lose their tongues, and they did speak unto their fathers great and marvelous things, even greater than he had revealed unto the people; and he loosed their tongues that they could utter.
“Critics of American education often point out, quite accurately, that the United States spends more money per pupil than most other developed countries and yet accomplishes less. On the international test most widely administered around the world, the United States ranks at #25, well below countries whose per-pupil spending on education is much lower, such as Hungary (#23), Poland (#21), the Czech Republic (#15) and Finland (#1).7 Finland, incidentally, consistently scores at or near the very top of all of these international rankings. What’s the most distinctive characteristic of public education in Finland? Very simple: Children in Finland don’t begin any formal school until they are seven years old.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 20
“Nevertheless, by the time they’re teenagers, Finnish children are beating American children by large margins on the same test. In the latest round of testing, for example, the average fifteen-year-old in Finland scored 545 in reading; fifteen-year-old American students taking the same examination scored 490. In problem solving, the average Finnish teenager scored 547, while the average American teenager scored a dismal 480.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 20
“Louv provides a compendium of research demonstrating that when there is a profound imbalance in a child’s early experiences—when nature has been replaced by computer screens and fancy indoor toys—the result is an increased risk for attention deficit disorder. For example, Louv cites a Swedish study in which researchers compared children in two different day-care facilities. One facility was surrounded by tall buildings, with a brick pathway. The other was set in an orchard surrounded by woods and was adjacent to an overgrown garden; at this facility, children were encouraged to play outdoors in all kinds of weather. The researchers found that “children in the ‘green’ daycare had better motor coordination and more ability to concentrate.”37 Similarly, researchers at the University of Illinois have found that putting children in an outdoor environment, where they can actually put their hands in the dirt and feel and smell real stuff, as opposed to interacting with sophisticated computer simulations, is helpful in treating ADHD.38 Ironically, the outdoor alternative is cheaper than the program with the fancy computers. Boys are at least three times as likely to be treated for ADHD compared with girls, and the rates of diagnosis of ADHD for both girls and boys have soared over the past two decades.39 One wonders to what extent the shift from Wissenschaft to Kenntnis may have contributed to the explosion in the numbers of children being treated for ADHD.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 31
“The first thing that happens when you ask kids to do stuff they have no interest in doing is they stop paying attention.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 34
“The second thing that happens when you ask kids to do stuff they have no interest in doing is they get annoyed. They get irritable. They withdraw.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 35.
“If you have a child who has habits that irritate you, I will guarantee that they are your habits. Children learn only by imitating the adults around them. Clear it within you, and you’ll find that they change automatically.” You Can Heal Your Life (Louise Hay)Page 101
“We parents are to blame for some of this because it started out as a way to entertain our kids. We justified it by saying they were developing their hand/eye coordination. They were home, we knew what they were doing, they were out of our hair and not causing trouble. Now they are in their twenties and we are scratching our heads wondering, “What’s their problem?”” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 76
“One-third of American children who are taking psychotropic medications today are actually taking two or three or four medications, not just one.10 It’s increasingly common to find a young boy who is on Adderall for his ADHD, clonidine to control his outbursts, and Prozac to stabilize his moods.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 87
“Who first suggests the diagnosis of ADHD?” Is it the doctor? Some other professional?Mom?Dad?A teacher?A neighbor?A relative? The doctors told us that in the majority of cases, the diagnosis is first suggested by a teacher.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 87
“Keeping a money diary, identifying “money heroes,” or creating a priority ranking of “belief statements” about money can provide valuable insights. Your understanding of how philanthropy fits into your money values will determine the way you shape your children’s philanthropic values.” Remmer, “Raising Children with Philanthropic Values“
“One of the pitfalls of wealth is that children may live in an isolated world of socioeconomic homogeneity and may not be exposed regularly to the “have not” segment of society. Our culture is replete with subtle and not-so-subtle messages about the “failures of the poor.” Sometimes our American spirit of individual achievement and competition can be understood to mean that everyone gets a fair chance. Parents can debunk these stereotypes and take proactive steps to broaden their children’s horizons. Encourage your child to join after-school activities with diverse groups of kids. Get involved as a family in community service projects. Use travel together as an opportunity to “unshelter” your children.” Remmer, “Raising Children with Philanthropic Values“
“Many families find this practice useful for children of all ages. Divide your child’s allowance among 3 “jars,” for spending, saving, and giving. This will reinforce the importance of saving and giving and also will provide early practice in money management. Once or twice a year, talk with your child about the “giving jar” and help identify possible recipients. If your child likes animals, visit the local animal shelter or do research together on the Internet for an appropriate charity. Some parents encourage their children to hand-deliver the gift or to add volunteer time to their financial donation. Parents of older children can provide an added incentive by offering to “match” the contribution” Remmer, “Raising Children with Philanthropic Values“
“Any family can develop its own philanthropy program and craft the activities that will encourage a generous spirit in the next generation. Philanthropy, in all its many shapes and forms, is a wonderful way for parents to share their values with their children while making a meaningful contribution in the larger world.” Remmer, “Raising Children with Philanthropic Values“
Luke 15: 3-7… ¶And he spake this parable unto them, saying,4 What man of you, having a hundred sheep, if he loses one of them, doth not leave the ninety and nine in the wilderness, and go after that which is lost until he finds it?5 And when he hath found it, he layeth it on his shoulders, rejoicing.6 And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbors, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep which was lost.7 I say unto you, that likewise, joy shall be in heaven over one sinner that repenteth, more than over ninety and nine just persons, which need no repentance.
“Family philanthropy is a powerful teaching tool that provides a safe environment in which your children can learn about money management and working as part of a team. Moreover, many families want to leave a legacy of meaning in addition to their financial wealth. Philanthropy can function as an important vehicle for articulation core values, providing a meaningful family legacy, and giving your children (and grandchildren) a competency experience. A strategic philanthropy program for family members enhances their human, intellectual, and social capital.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page9
“When I ask parents what their deepest hopes are for their children, they often say they just want them to be happy. But how should we think about happiness? Is it simply a pleasant emotion or something more? According to Aristotle and his latter-day student, Thomas Jefferson, the “pursuit of happiness” has to do with an internal journey to know ourselves and an external journey of selfless service to others. Indeed, the concept of a personal moral compass has been a central motif throughout the lifetime of our civilization.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 10
“More recently, Abraham Maslow, the twentieth-century American psychologist, gave us clues to real happiness in his hierarchy of human needs and goals. Self-actualization, the final aspiration, involves the journey through which we discover what we are truly called to do and be and starting to do it. Maslow postulated an additional objective: transcendence, the ability to move beyond the “self,” to see one’s own fulfillment as inextricably linked to serving the needs of others.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 10
““ Part of the reason for believing that my wealth should be given back to society,” says Bill Gates, in Forbes magazine article, “and not, in any substantial percentage, be passed on to my children, is that I don’t think it would be good for them. They really need to get out and work and contribute to society. I think that’s an important element of a fulfilling life.”” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 25
“Entrepreneurs enjoy the hunt,” adds Fay, “and they want to instill that sense of struggle and achievement in their children. They’ll set up a safety net for them so they can be teachers or musicians-to expand their range of fulfilling life opportunities. They’ll tell their own story about how excited they are in creating something in the hope that their children will challenge themselves.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 28
“More communication is almost always better. Talking to your children early about the meaning and purpose of your family wealth can also enhance your relationship with your children.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 32
““Children need to be nurtured and encouraged,” Hausner points out, “and they need tolerance when they make mistakes, as well as the willingness to allow them to make their own choices. Above all, they need opportunities to take charge of themselves and to assume personal responsibility if they are eventually to manage their own lives.”” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 41-42
“Time is a precious commodity in our lives. Many well-meaning parents unintentionally limit their availability to be with their children because of important business, social, and charitable commitments. “While it is not possible to create universal rules regarding time,” Hausner says, “learning effective parenting techniques can make the time you spend with your children meaningful, memorable and special, so that you are, in a sense, with them even when you are not.” Many observers have pointed out that the quality of time we spend with our children is just as important as the quantity.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 42
“If affluent parents do not actively instill within their children a sense of value and respect for money and the effort earning it requires,” asserts Hausner in Children of Paradise, “the result can be a child who not only believes there is an endless supply of capital but one who consequently abuses it.”” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 42
“Children need to learn early and often that they are responsible for their decisions, including those that involve money, and must live with the consequences.” Wealth in Families Third Edition (Charles W. Collier) Page 56
“Parents, help safeguard your children by arming them morning and night with the power of family prayer. Children are bombarded every day with the evils of lust, greed, pride, and a host of other sinful behaviors. Protect your children from daily worldly influences by fortifying them with the powerful blessings that result from family prayer. Family prayer should be a non-negotiable priority in your daily life.” Richard G. Scott, October 2014 General Conference
Mosiah 3: 16…And even if it were possible that little children could sin they could not be saved; but I say unto you they are blessed; for behold, as in Adam, or by nature, they fall, even so, the blood of Christ atoneth for their sins
Mosiah 3:18… For behold he judgeth, and his judgment is just; and the infant perisheth not that dieth in his infancy; but men drink damnation to their own souls except they humble themselves and become as little children, and believe that salvation was, and is, and is to come, in and through the atoning blood of Christ, the Lord Omnipotent.
Mosiah 3:20 -21… 20 And moreover, I say unto you, that the time shall come when the knowledge of a Savior shall spread throughout every nation, kindred, tongue, and people. 21 And behold, when that time cometh, none shall be found blameless before God, except it is little children, only through repentance and faith on the name of the Lord God Omnipotent.
“The same principle can be applied to children: ‘Don’t overfund children- you’ll ruin them. It will impair their character and destroy their motivation to succeed.’ When children study the plight of people in need, and they understand that they have the wherewithal to do something about it, it is a powerful experience. That is especially true of children who have never experienced scarcity in any respect. With knowledge about the needs of others, children can experience scarcity from the vantage point of the helping hand in the field. As one advisor put it, ‘Instead of merely sailing on a sea of riches, children can experience an ocean of needs.” Beating the Midas Curse, by Perry L. Cochell and Rodney C. Zeeb, Page 150
“Who first suggests the diagnosis of ADHD?” Is it the doctor? Some other professional? Mom? Dad? A teacher? A neighbor? A relative? The doctors told us that in the majority of cases, the diagnosis is first suggested by a teacher.” Boys Adrift: The Five Factors Driving the Growing Epidemic of Unmotivated Boys and Underachieving Young Men (Leonard Sax) Page 87
“Parents should leave children “enough money so they would feel they could do anything, but not so much that they could do nothing.” Warren Buffet
Jacob 3:10… Wherefore, ye shall remember your children, how that ye have grieved their hearts because of the example that ye have set before them; and also, remember that ye may, because of your filthiness, bring your children unto destruction, and their sins be heaped upon your heads at the last day.
Jacob 3:5 -7…5 Behold, the Lamanites your brethren, whom ye hate because of their filthiness and the cursing which hath come upon their skins, are more righteous than you; for they have not forgotten the commandment of the Lord, which was given unto our father—that they should have saved it were one wife, and concubines they should have none, and there should not be whoredoms committed among them. 6 And now, this commandment they observe to keep; wherefore, because of this observance, in keeping this commandment, the Lord God will not destroy them, but will be merciful unto them; and one day they shall become a blessed people. 7 Behold, their husbands love their wives, and their wives love their husbands; and their husbands and their wives love their children; and their unbelief and their hatred towards you is because of the iniquity of their fathers; wherefore, how much better are you than they, in the sight of your great Creator?
“Many families find this practice useful for children of all ages. Divide your child’s allowance among 3 “jars,” for spending, saving, and giving. This will reinforce the importance of saving and giving and also will provide early practice in money management. Once or twice a year, talk with your child about the “giving jar” and help identify possible recipients. If your child likes animals, visit the local animal shelter or do research together on the Internet for an appropriate charity. Some parents encourage their children to hand-deliver the gift or to add volunteer time to their financial donation. Parents of older children can provide an added incentive by offering to “match” the contribution” Remmer, “Raising Children with Philanthropic Values“
Jacob 2:35… Behold, ye have done greater iniquities than the Lamanites, our brethren. Ye have broken the hearts of your tender wives, and lost the confidence of your children, because of your bad examples before them; and the sobbings of their hearts ascend up to God against you. And because of the strictness of the word of God, which cometh down against you, many hearts died, pierced with deep wounds.
Jacob, Chapter 2: 7… And also it grieveth me that I must use so much boldness of speech concerning you, before your wives and your children, many of whose feelings are exceedingly tender and chaste and delicate before God, which thing is pleasing unto God;
“I think about the fact that Grant, Kobe, and I had strong fathers. I know people are concerned about the behavior of some young players, but it starts at home. I’ve always said that. I wish some of the other guys in the league could have had fathers at home, just to see what it’s like, just to see how much better people they could be. Some of the background for the decisions, the evaluations, the choices you have to make, come from when you were at home growing up. Two-parent homes aren’t as prevalent anymore. Single-parent, either way, you’re missing the opposite influence of the missing parent. I had both parents. It helped my decision-making immensely. Especially now that I am a father, making choices like a father, talking to my kids. Like my father did with me.” This as-told-to, from Michael Jordan, was originally published in the April 6, 1998, issue of ESPN The Magazine.
Mosiah 3:19…For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father.
“I feel certain that if in our homes, parents will read from the Book of Mormon prayerfully and regularly, both by themselves and with their children, the spirit of that great book will come to permeate our homes and all who dwell therein. The spirit of reverence will increase; mutual respect and consideration for each other will grow. The spirit of contention will depart. Parents will counsel their children in greater love and wisdom. Children will be more responsive and submissive to the counsel of their parents. Righteousness will increase. Faith, hope, and charity—the pure love of Christ—will abound in our homes and lives, bringing in their wake peace, joy, and happiness” – President Marion G. Romney
“Making the break with Salt Lake City, where Dantzel and Russell were surrounded by family and lifelong friends, was a great adventure and a bit unnerving all at the same time. Many years later, however, Russell would say, “Leaving the nest is the best marriage glue I can imagine, because a husband and wife have to deal with their challenges together. They can’t go running home to Momma or to Daddy. You tough it out and figure it out.” Insights from a Prophet’s Life, Russell M. Nelson, Page 23
“The greatest mark of a father is how he treats his children when no one is looking.” Dan Pearce
“As a member of the restored church, I have often found myself on the receiving end of Christlike empathy. As young parents, my wife and I spent a year caring for a gravely ill daughter. Our daily lives were in complete disarray. I have to say honestly that at the time, this unimaginable hardship significantly compromised the simple faith that had sustained me in my youth. Our home teacher at the time, Skip Johnson, was initially really at a loss as to how to help us. He checked in, but we’d often be MIA, having rushed to the hospital in emergencies, or spending days at a time there. Skip sometimes felt a bit intrusive asking about the details of our daughter’s deteriorating condition. I came home from the hospital one night so weary, to find that he had let himself into our house, where he stood washing the dishes and scrubbing the sink out. Nothing was that dirty, but I think he found that was a good way for him to work out his frustrations about our situation and to demonstrate his love for us at the same time. There was nothing I needed more than that token of his love and empathy for me. Of all the amazing help that we received during that trial, I don’t know why the memory of that simple gesture sticks with me the most. Skip wanted to enter our burning building somehow, so in “comprehending” us, he decided to do it with our hide-a-key, comet, and a scouring pad. What an inspired minister he was.” – President Scott Smith, San Clemente Stake Conference, June 13th, 2021
“Let us not forget that we believe in being benevolent and in doing good to all men. I am convinced that we can teach our children effectively enough that we need not fear that they will lose their faith while being friendly and considerate with those who do not subscribe to the doctrine of this Church. Let us be involved in good community causes. There may be situations where, with serious moral issues involved, we cannot bend on matters of principle. But in such instances we can politely disagree without being disagreeable. We can acknowledge the sincerity of those whose positions we cannot accept. We can speak of principles rather than personalities.” Manual, Teachings of the Presidents of the Church: Gordon B Hinkley, Chapter 20, Fellowship with Those who are Not of our Faith